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Is a lap dance the same as cheating? - 105 posts

Started 9 months ago by MoeV
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TrojanMayhem (Minja)
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A lap dance is so much better when the stripper is cryin'

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Posted 9 months ago #
Sigh (DonSimeoni)
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oh dude, last time i went to a strip joint, this stripper had a barbell piercing in her lower back... and it was infected... nastiest shit ever

meh...I'll do it later

Posted 9 months ago #
Genji
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i think cheating can only be defined per relationship. some swing, some swing both ways, some like to watch. point is both (or more...if that's how you roll) need to talk about what the limits are.

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Posted 9 months ago #
TrojanMayhem (Minja)
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That was actually from a bloodhound gang song. But yeah strip joints are gross the chicks in there are all real skeevy lookin'

Posted 9 months ago #
mike 80
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JwVwm300QVI&NR=1 lapdance

Posted 9 months ago #
Master Gio
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Getting a lap dance is NOT cheating. I have never had a bad story of bad experience going to a strip club. On the contrary. But, then again i am picky about the places i go to.

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Posted 9 months ago #
herb44
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Is getting a safety dance cheating? You can dance, You can dance....

Posted 9 months ago #
TrojanMayhem (Minja)
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@Herb haha yeah it's ok so long as you dont.......whip it, whip it good....

Posted 9 months ago #
THRASHER
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If your thinking about it enough to deem a forum questioner then yes it's cheating (in your case anyway).

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Posted 9 months ago #
GhostWhoWalks
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Cheating.

If you feel the need to go to a stranger and pay them for arousal you get through simulated sex that you should be getting at home, it's cheating. And if you're not paying them for that... WTF are you paying them for.

Posted 9 months ago #
phil4real
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I think the boudaries should be discussed in the relationship. But if two parties can't settle on boundaries then at least compromise cuz relationships are a 50/50 thing...In case you didn't know.

Posted 9 months ago #
TwoGee
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I'd say it's a mild form of cheating. Unless she's cool with it then w/e

Posted 9 months ago #
Walbomb
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I'd say it's only cheating if you jizz in your pants.

Posted 9 months ago #
SiteAdmin
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Never been to a strip joint, never had the desire to. But making a general assumption based on stories from people I know a "lap dance" can easily involve a face full of roast beef. That's where I'd vomit. Hello stranger, I can see your kidneys... no thanks. If you're in a relationship, clear it with your girl first. Or be a douche bag, get skank on you and then hide it, because it was soooooo worth it.

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Posted 9 months ago #
magoo
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@tlawrence3, my wife is a massage therapist and to even compare her to a stripper is a personal insult to me. When a guy goes to a stripper for a lap dance he is going to get sexually aroused. When someone goes to get a massage they are going to get relaxed. Totally different. If you are going to a massage therapist to get aroused you will end up getting your ass kicked and carted off to jail by the cops. Bet on it.

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Posted 9 months ago #
Gerrad
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Boy a lot of you guys are being hard on these poor girls. Don't you all know they are doing this to help pay for school? Everyone of them! Especially that 40 year old one, you know hard hard it must be to go back to school at that age?

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Posted 9 months ago #
noname
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olivia munn if i gave myself a lap dance, would that be cheating on myself, thus cheating on you?
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Posted 9 months ago #
mike 80
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does lapdance connected to strippers?
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Posted 9 months ago #
S0nntagskind
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What if a friend pays for a lapdance and after the stripper began he needs to make an urgend phone call but don't want to waste the money so he asks me if I would take the lapdance over from him...and the good friend I am, I wouldn't let him down...Is that cheating or a friendly turn?

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Posted 9 months ago #
AnotherA
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*dancing in all your laps*

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Posted 9 months ago #
SillyMikey
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I dunno, its a very grey area. Depends on the girl i think.

Posted 9 months ago #
Leonard
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I think it depends on the relationship.

There are those that feel that having a more intimate conversation with someone other than who you're with (and by that I mean a "How was your day?", kind of thing) actually cheating. Others don't think anything of lapdances, but I think it's just a matter of going somewhere else to get something you could "get at home".

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Posted 9 months ago #
Terrence Cheek
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Yeah its cheating, I haven been to a strip club since I was 19 but a lap dance then ment A girl + Me sitting down + her rubbing her body all over me which = Wood - $20

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Posted 9 months ago #
Naklsonofnakkl
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This is a very grey area. In retrospect it really matters only to the person you are with, do they consider kissing to be cheating? Hugging to be Cheating? Even just staring at another girl to be cheating? (there are crazy bitches out there)
I think however, a lapdance would not be cheating under a very FEW thin circumstances;
A) the girl is not naked
B) It was a gift from a friend
C) it is only a LAP dance, not a face dance like some do.

Again however, it is really up to your 'morals' (if you bother to have any) and checking with your girlfriend or wife on the subject at hand. In all honesty, I think unless it is a bachelor party (which is still a shitty excuse) you shouldn't be around a stripper or stripper joint if you are in a relationship, even just to hang out with friends.

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Posted 8 months ago #
Danger Man
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Assuming it's simply a lap dance, no kissing or sex of any kind involved before, during, or afterwards, then no it's not cheating. Tacky perhaps if you're in a relationship, sort of like going on about how attractive some other woman is while you're talking to your wife or girlfriend...but cheating? No, not really. If the guy is sneaking off to visit the strip club without the significant other knowing about it, there may be a lack of trust or consideration indicating he's not that into her, but if instead he was sneaking off to the local bar for drinks, is that cheating? No, not unless he's meeting another woman for drinks then they go back to her place for sex.

If getting turned on by a lap dance makes the guy a cheater, then you could say every married or involved guy who goes out to buy Olivia's issue of Playboy is also guilty of cheating, because it's possible he might look at the pictures and get turned on by them. Also, no Baywatch reruns for him. Watching sports is fine, unless he comes across women's beach volleyball...then he'd better switch to the Discovery channel quickly, or else he might be guilty of cheating. Way to be secure in your relationship!

Let's say the guy goes to a club, buys a dance and actually enjoys it. He gets turned on, but nothing "happens" between the guy and the dancer. He then goes home and makes love to his wife/gf. Everybody wins here. The dancer makes a little money, the wife or girlfriend gets some loving from her worked up guy(maybe he's even more passionate than usual), and the guy certainly benefits from the whole affair, so to speak.

Some women tell their men, "I don't care where you get your appetite as long as you eat at home." That sounds reasonable to me.

If you're in a healthy relationship, and your guy truly cares about you, he's probably going to not be too interested in getting a lot of lap dances anyway(unless they're from you, of course). Even if he does buy one now and again, maybe just to help out a dancer who happens to be a friend, maybe even an ex, so what? As long as it doesn't lead to an actual affair, it very possibly has nothing really to do with you. Besides, if your guy would rather go out and get lap dances on a regular basis instead of being with you, don't you think you just might be better off dumping him and looking for a man who IS interested in spending quality time with you?

For the record, I am single and I personally know a lot of dancers. My best friend is a dancer. Trust me ladies, at least as far as the ones I know are concerned, the last thing a stripper wants is to get your man to cheat on you with her. It's strictly business to them. They are there to make money, not break up your solid, stable relationship.

Posted 8 months ago #
VaughnL86
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its not cheating until THE P goes IN THE V .... other than that its all fair game

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Posted 8 months ago #
Dirty White Boy
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What if you wife or GF pays for your lap dance ?? what if she watches you get the lap dance ?
just adding fuel to the fire

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Posted 8 months ago #
natpants
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i've decided that if my boyfriend and i get married, i'm going to pay for a stripper to go to his bachelor party. it'll be a last gift to him before i rule his life forever

hehe.

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Posted 8 months ago #
Naklsonofnakkl
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@natpants - you should just go as the stripper yourself, that would be an awesome gift. I mean, 4/10 most bachelors do 'something' cheating related with a stripper at their bachelor parties, and having problems that early on just leads to more trouble down the road. Strippers = Single man fun

Posted 8 months ago #
Rodney
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if its something you gotta hide from your other than it might be cheating

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Posted 8 months ago #